Common Ground - May 1999
"What are the qualities of a good mediator?" I was recently asked by a newspaper reporter. One fundamental quality is that the mediator be able to listen carefully without judging.
Facilitative Mediation - also called problem-centered. The mediator's role is to facilitate better communication and creative problem solving.
Interest-based Mediation is very similar to facilitative mediation. Key components are the exploration of the parties' interests; development of a large number of options; and an assessment of options by objective criteria agreed upon by the parties.
Rights-based Mediation - also called early neutral evaluation or evaluative mediation. The mediator evaluates the case in the light of rules (for example, generally accepted accounting principles), contract interpretation or the law. This is the model used in a pre-trial process.
Therapeutic or Healing Mediation. Although the parties may have specific issues in dispute the mediator's emphasis is on the healing of relationship or of the community.
Transformative Mediation - This process strives to empower the parties, to encourage the disputants to appreciate the positive aspects of the relationship and to offer recognition of one another's points of view, as well as opportunities to themselves and the other person differently.
Med-Arb is a hybrid of mediation and arbitration. The parties agree in advance that if they are unable to reach an agreement in mediation the mediator will take on the role of arbitrator and make a decision.
"What are the qualities of a good mediator?" I was recently asked by a newspaper reporter. One fundamental quality is that the mediator be able to listen carefully without judging. Good listening is not passive. It is an active effort to understand the other person and to communicate that understanding. In seeking to understand each party without judging them, the mediator often opens up the path for the parties to be able to hear each other, a necessary first step to getting the situation resolved.
Another key quality is patience. A step-by-step facilitated mediation process will generally yield the parties' own solution. The mediator who gets impatient and tries to push the parties to agree to the mediator's own solution will likely end up with less satisfied customers or with a less durable agreement.
Why are these qualities so important? The mediator's job is to reduce the obstacles to communication, maximize the exploration of alternatives and address the needs of those involved. The mediator tries to ensure that the parties reach agreement freely, without undue influence and on the basis of informed consent.
Mediation is a developing field. So far there are no professional standards limiting what is "mediation" and who can call themselves a "mediator". Anyone can advertise themselves as a mediator. As a consumer it is important to ensure that the mediator is a fit for your situation.
- Do you belong to any professional organizations for mediators? Professional organizations such as the Arbitration and Mediation Institute of Ontario and the Ontario Association for Family Mediation require members to follow a Code of Professional Conduct. Members of the Ontario Mandatory Mediation Program rosters in Toronto and Ottawa are required to follow the Code of Conduct under that program.
- What kind of training have you had in mediation? How long have you been a mediator? The Ontario Mandatory Mediation Program requires a minimum of 40 hours of mediation training in order to be considered for the roster. The London Area Mediators' Association requires a minimum of 60 hours of training or 40 hours of training and 20 hours of mediation experience for its roster members. Mediators who participate in ongoing professional development will have had much more mediation than 40 or 60 hours of education specifically in mediation. For example, my current total is 282 hours of mediation training since 1994.
- What kind of mediation do you use? There are a variety of different styles and models for the mediation process. Many mediators use a hybrid of more than one model. See the box on this page for an explanation of the models. I use a facilitative or interested-based mediation style. Generally the parties agree that the mediation proceedings are confidential and cannot be used in a later court proceeding and the mediator will not be summoned as a witness in a later court proceeding.
- What kinds of mediation have you handled? The mediator may also suggest additional professional advice such as legal or financial advice if appropriate in the situation.
- How much will it cost? Most mediators charge on an hourly basis. In addition to the cost of the mediator's services there may be disbursements such as meeting room space and travel expenses for the mediator. The mediator may ask for a deposit when the mediation is scheduled. While you're on the subject of money ask about the mediator's cancellation policy.
- How long will it take? Based on the types of issues involved the mediator can likely give you a rough idea of the length of time. This will be flexible because it will depend on the parties needs during the mediation session.
While you're talking to the mediator you will have an opportunity to evaluate the personal qualitites such as listening skills and patience. Your decision to use mediation is important. It is worth the investment of time to choose the best mediator for the situation.